Why a Home Funeral?
Families care for one another in every stage of life, continuing that into end-of-life care can be our final act of love for them. Cleaning and preparing them for their final disposition was once a part of the American way of life. Before funeral homes and crematories, families cared for the bodies of their deceased and lay them in the parlor of their homes for families to have their last goodbyes together. In the last century, that process has been moved to a less personal place, the funeral parlor rather than the home parlor. At Grieving Green, we’re helping families bring that time of love and grieving back home to the family.
Why Grieving “Green”?
During the American Civil War, the embalming process was just taking hold in America. This helped to preserve the bodies of young soldiers just long enough to make the long journey home to their families. Over the years, this process of replacing the body's fluids with the formaldehyde-based embalming fluid became the “norm”, and now many believe that this process is necessary before burial.
Not only is embalming unnecessary, it is unnatural and toxic to our environment. Decomposition does not immediately take place and there is no need to preserve the body, as burial will normally take place in 1-3 days. Adding unnecessary carcinogens to the body will only result in these chemicals going to the grave with the body. As it decomposes, these chemicals will leach into the earth and groundwater around the gravesite, causing environmental damage to the surrounding habitat. Modern burial practices deal with this problem by placing the casket in a large and expensive concrete liner vault in the ground. These vaults are not necessary except to contain the toxins that have been added to the body, and to keep the ground flat creating a "lawn cemetary". Inside these vaults natural decomposition cannot take place.
Grieving Green promotes natural “green” burials, where Caskets or Shroud Boards are buried directly into the earth. Natural decomposition can take place and your loved ones can return to the earth in the way that we were designed to do.
In many states, you can bury your loved ones right at home on your own property. New Hampshire requires that the burial site be 100 feet from a structure and 50 feet from a waterway. The gravesite location is then noted on the property deed. However, if you cannot bury on your property, we encourage you to seek a Green Burial Ground which does not require concrete liners or stone markers.